talk about sex

Sex has become a very important and controversial topic discussed in our society. As a child, it seems like I have had sex talks with adults on numerous occasions. Whether these adults were telling me to wait, or they accepted the fact that sex would occur before marriage and give me knowledgeable advise on the topic, these adults were looking out for my well being and me. They were using their morals and beliefs about the topic to try and shape mine. Now, at the age of 18 years old, my beliefs on the topic seem to have been influenced by all the advise my elders had given me in my youth.

In college there is a lot of pressure and temptation to have sex. At this age, hormones are raging and the idea of having intercourse seems to be very arousing. There are many women in college who all seemed to have fully developed bodies, which can become a huge distraction in your education. I never really let these college women distract me though. I always figured that these are just a preview of the women I will be getting when I become successful. When I am an established chemical engineer, there will be way more women after me compared to the ones in college. My dad always told me a quote he was told as a youth in Africa, “ At a young age, women are like hats. When you are running through a bush, the hat will always fall off.” This quote meant that at this age, when you are going, through hard times, women always leave. This has really been a helpful quote to me.

Compared to my peers and the people I hang out with, I don’t consider myself like the average college male. I don’t focus on just dating and having sex with various women. I am very selectful on who I have sex with and I make sure that I am actually interested in these woman. To me, having sex means giving your partner a sense intimacy, which is seldom for me to give. My decisions on who I decide to have sex with are mainly influenced by my family. I grew up with all girls in my household and my mom mainly raised me. I wouldn’t ant any guys to play with my sisters’ heart, so I try not to play with other girl’s hearts as well.

Growing up, I've always had numerous opportunities to sleep with various women. I’ve always limited these opportunities as well. I think being able to refuse or deny women when they want to have sex is a good feeling. It makes me feel like I am in control and that they don’t phase me because there’s so many other women out there. This normally works, and makes the woman respect me a lot more.

The only advice I could give to children younger than me is to always practice safe sex and to make sure you are ready to have sex and ready to face the consequences of it. They need to stay focused in their education and let these women become a big aspect of their life after they are successful. I know too many people who have gotten an STD or had a baby at a young age and I also know that it’s not good at all.